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what defines your happiness and success?

I was having lunch with a colleague and our topic veered towards success.

Just what is deem as success? What is your definition of success?

I feel that one's definition of success defers according to how we are brought up, what we are exposed to in our life. What I feel is successful may not be what you view as successful.

I was sharing with her my own opinion, how my views on life have changed over the years.

In the past, my definition of success is being able to work at the tallest building I've set my eyes on in Hong Kong. To the younger me, being literally at the top means being successful, powerful, because only the most successful will be able to afford working there. BUT that was then. When my company moved to Suntec a few years back and I get to experience working on the 41st floor, I realised that it was really all just a number. I supposed what I wanted was just to experience working from the top, and when I was there, I realised that it really was nothing much. Maybe the view's better, but that's it. All I got out of it was that I get to strike 'working at the top' off my bucket list =D.

Anyways, I was telling my colleague that my priorties now have changed as compared to the past.

Here's a list of what I used to aspire to become or do:

1. Work at the top level of the highest financial building in Hong Kong
2. To experience studying or working abroad
3. To earn my first million by 25 years old
4. To be remembered by many over the world for what I contributed to society

Now... as time passes me by... I've changed... and so have my goals. This is my list as of now.

1. Achieve the best results in whatever roles I have been given at work and in life
2. Travel around the world to widen my mind
3. Not to compare with others nor let others' opinions affect what I truly believe in
4. Be remembered... by those who matters to me and those whom lives I have touched
5. Retire in South Africa with animals I love and the man I love
6. Be financially independant in order to do what I love and help those truly in need

Wanting to study or work overseas is no longer a priority in my life as I have realised that location doesn't matter anymore, what matters most is being happy with my job scope (the challenges I get to face) and if I wish to pick up my books again, studying what I truly want to study. Maybe I can only achieve that overseas, but at least now I know my goal is to achieve the sense of satisfaction in whatever things I do. In the past, my focus is just on working/studying overseas, which is wrong as I may find only short-term happiness. After the novelty of working/studying overseas die down, how long am I able to last there? At least now I know what my goals are and I know where to focus my energy on.

I have also learned that what I truly want is not to be a millionaire. I realised that money really isn't everything. Maybe it will help remove one aspect of my life, but that's it. I have other ways to make me happy.

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