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The truth is...

The truth is, I'm glad the relationship was over. I didn't realise how poisonous being together with him was and how stubborn I could be to hang on to something that wasn't meant to be.

Being with him was comfortable, too comfortable that I persuaded myself to give him many chances even though he clearly does not deserve it. All the self reasonings I've put myself through is enough for me to write a self-help book. 

The moment where I realise I should never settle for someone who brings out the worse in me is the best decision of my life.

I do not expect someone to bring out the best in me (because that has to come from within and not from someone); the least I expect is not bring out the worst in me.

It feels liberating to get away from a toxic relationship and take control of my life, finding back my own happiness. The choice is ours, whether to continue a cycle or break away from it. I am just so happy that I decided to step out of my comfort zone instead of taking the comfortable path and turning a blind eye to many things . The path ahead is uncertain but definitely beautiful.

xoxo,
Mabel

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